|trying to interpret this weird recurring dream you've been having|
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Two of my friends, who are married, are having an affair. We're at a housewarming party thrown by another mutual friend. I was using the bathroom in their guest room to freshen up just as the two married friendsenter said guest room to have sex. They're: cheating on their spouses with each other, and have been doing so for at least three years! Upon seeing them begin to have sex, I try to leave the room but they won't let me. They claim that if I leave the room, the other guests will hear my footsteps.
I recall that the closet in the guest room opens into a larger room, and suggest that I exit that way, but they refuse. The door makes too much noise when someone tries to open it and it would only serve to attract other peoples' attention. : They also reveal that they would like me to watch them have sex. I refuse and try to leave again, but they lock the doors, basically forcing me to watch them have sex.
Uhhh OK. Being as the main problems with interpreting dreams stem from self-reporting having a tendency to leave things out (even here), I'm going to ask some general questions, if that's alright: 1/ Are you married/in a stable relationship right now? Have you recently ended one, if not? 2/ Are any of these friends people you view as promiscuous, unfaithful, sexually attractive, ambitious, or any other stand-out quality?
3/ How do you feel about sex, right now? [I'm not propositioning you, I just want to know what sex means to you at this point in your life] 4/ Are you sexually active at the present time [you can skip this question, of course] 5/ Does the narrative of the: dream relate strongly to any media you have recently consumed, eg, the plot of a novel or film, or to events in your own life? 6/ Does the dream evoke feelings or sensations that you would ordinarily connect with other thoughts, or with being in certain
1./ I'm dating someone, it seems to be going well so far: 2./ These two friends are outwardly different as vinegar and oil. They're both hard working, industrious people who are good friends to me in real life. I recently found out that they've been sexting each other for a while.
-real-life situations? If it does, are any of these situations or thoughts problematic for you? 7/ How would you rate your emotional state generally, over the last twelve months? How about over the last month, and the last few days? 8/ Can you identify a: common factor between times at which you have experienced the recurring dream. Anything to link the occurrences together, even if it seems trivial?
OK sorry I guess I was talking over you, there: these friends: are they married in real life?
3./ I think that sex can be a good thing if shared with caring and responsible partner(s), but I feel no need to rush into it at this point in my life. 4./ No (see previous question). 5./ The narrative does change a good deal every time I have this dream.: Last time, I was a caterer hired for the party and I'd left my purse in the guest room. The time before that, the hostess was letting me stay with her in the guets room because I'd had a fight with my mother about my boyfriend.
6./ No, I react how I think I would if this happened in real life. 7 and 8./ I've been having a lot of ups and downs in my work and personal life. As shallow as it sounds, my current relationship seems to be the only bright spot in my life at this time. : I haven't noticed any correlation between this and the dream. The friends aren't married in real life; they're single and have fairly demanding careers that consume much of their time so I see them maybe three or four times a month at most.
OK. I guess the obvious thing to say first of all is that dreams, even recurring ones, don't have to be trying to tell us something. Sometimes they're just entertainment: in this case, a sort of horror, perhaps. Memorable dreams get syndication deals.: Assuming for the moment that it does have some deeper significance, I would guess from what you've said here that it's simply an expression of your surprise at how very different people seem to be getting together, which perhaps you unconsciously feel
How do you feel about sex, right now? (I am propositioning you.): Are you sexually active? (And, if you're a chick, do you do anal?)
draws your own judgement into question. That's a natural concern, but of course we've all seen relationships that really shouldn't work but still manage to, so it's something you could reassure yourself over. Perhaps they're not "married" to different way: s of life, but to their careers; perhaps your unconscious - which isn't always the roundest thinker - views their success as being linked to their lack of personal attachments. In any case, I would suggest the "locked in" part would then come from the
Oh, I should have mentioned this earlier. The male friend expressed romantic interest in me earlier while I was talking to my boyfriend, but I turned him down because I felt we wouldn't work out sexually.: My current boyfriend is more sensitive to my needs and more understanding of my relationship related anxieties.
desire to see more of your friends, but having to now reconcile that with the notion of them becoming an item, which again you perhaps object to on some (perhaps not rational) unconscious level.: The rest of it - given that it changes - is likely the garbage concerns that were troubling you at the time, and unlikely to have anything to do with the couple. Do I win a prize?
Uh well I guess having been propositioned by one of them would perhaps account for : the invitation in the dream. It's a relationship - at least in part - that you could have been part of. Again, not necessarily a rational basis for linking them like that in the dream, perhaps more the brain listing known facts about the people depicted.
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